I have no expertise on this, though my ex-spouse always said that I had an anger problem too.
In my case, it wasn't so. She just didn't like it when I got mad or upset about something.
All I'm going to say is that understanding that you have to do something is a pretty good place to be in. At the very least I would be looking for a counselor to begin seeing. Something is at the root of your anger I would think.
And now I'm WAY out of my league, so I'll stop.
I know your marriage is valuable and important to you, so don't think that I'm making light of it with my next comments, ok?
This stuff right here is whey the counsel on this site is to place your focus on examining yourself and getting honest with who you are, what you've become.
It's a hell of a lot more important RIGHT NOW, that you be devoting yourself to finding answers for yourself, rather than working on your marriage.
The good news is that your wife wants a break too, that's why she's taken the steps she has.
Work on yourself. Fixing a deeply rooted issue with anger is NOT going to happen overnight, and it's not going to be fixed by some magic pill. It's going to take time and devotion.
Priorities.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
