No worries JS. I ended up not having to make a decision. W never followed. Shocking.
On top of that, she took money out of joint saving's account yesterday. We always agreed that we would talk about it before taking out any money. Up until now, that's what we did.
I won't lie and say I'm not angry, but I've decided that in the morning, I am going to freeze the account. Freeze it so that neither of us can touch the account unless both of us go into a specific branch and unfreeze it together.
I really feel horrible that I have to do this but it's a large chunk of money, it doesn't matter the reason WHY she did it.. only that she betrayed our agreement. I need to protect myself and my future.
Sticking up for myself will be a huge 180 for me. Letting my W feel consequences of her actions will be a huge 180 for me. Not enabling her to be the same.. huge 180. I've been scared of my w for a LONG time. The only way I can stop the fear is to just move forward.
Urgh.. the beginning steps of D are not fun.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
