Life, the Universe and DBing

[LearningPatience]

Well, that was... meh

Went over to W's house a bit ago. She's sick and sounds like a harp seal. She gathered up some stuff for me (including lots from the garden) and had it ready on the counter. I grabbed a couple of other things and made small talk. We went down to the basement to grab my missing DVD (got it), sat down and I asked her "so, how about us?" It didn't seem like she really had a lot to specifically say about the sitch.

We both decided we hated the limbo we were in. My going dark on her made her angry. I asked her if she understood why I did it, she kinda did. I told her it was to keep my sanity and anger at bay.

We both mentioned that we cycle between wanting to work on things and moving on. Right now, she's leaning more towards D and I'm leaning more towards R. We both admitted to talking to L but neither of us did anything about it. Talked about mediation a bit. W mentioned that she wishes we could go back two years and do things differently. Told her I agreed. Also told her that in some ways this whole process kinda shook me out of my depression and other problems. There was a silver lining in it for me, but it would have been better if it could have happened a different way.

We talked the pros and cons of D and I mentioned that I wish we had a crystal ball to see where we'd be 5-10 years down the road. She agreed and I told her my crystal ball was in the shop, but I probably wouldn't get it back because I owed money on it.

We have mutual friends that D a couple of years ago. P, the male, hates his exW. H, the female, still cares for P and asks about him. I jokingly asked my W if she was P or H. As I thought, she said P, so I joked that it was because they both have stubby fingers (he's 6ft tall with baby sized hands). I think she saw the humor in it.

W mentioned a few other things going on in her life. I listened and asked questions. The house is kinda big for just her so I asked how that was going. She'd like to sell it, but the dogs are too big for an apartment so I don't see that happening (didn't say that to her of course). She'd like to go somewhere with a different climate she said. Haven't told her I've been applying for jobs in CO.

All in all, it was a little sad but not too uncomfortable. W said we could talk again next week or so when she feels better. I told her she could talk to me and I wouldn't get mad. No hugs or anything, but I gave her a little pat on the shoulder as I left.

So, that was it.