You're right our situations do seem similar. It is indeed exciting to talk to other people. I haven't even really seriously connected with anyone yet but have had many brief conversations and even that is a lot of fun.
If you haven't checked it out or similiar, try getting into some of David DeAngelo's material. Especially the inner game stuff which is all about making yourself a better man and goes into great detail. Compared to all the other material I've read about saving my marriage, when I started studying stuff from the "pickup artist community" is when my wife started acting a lot differently. From body posture, to eye contact, to personal boundries, to building lifestyle, and treating everyone you meet in an authentically cool way... it's been eye opening stuff.
For the last two days she has actually slept in our house (!) for various reasons. The first night she asked if she could sleep in my bed. (?!?) I said sure I can sleep on the couch. If I tried to put the moves on her I think she would retreat again, plus for some reason now I'm not as attracted to her lol (?!?) Before I totally was and she didn't want me.
She told me she's jealous that I might be hanging around other woman. Mostly I think I'm just starting to get into reaching my potential as a person and it's having an effect on her, she thought I was hopeless but I'm totally having success with meeting other people because I'm doing tons of work. She on the other hand seems to have no interest in self improvement and now it's me wondering if I can be with her! AHHH!
Good luck with your situation. It's cool to type this out to someone who gets it, I don't talk about these things with many people.
