"I keep beating myself up for not getting "better" faster, and then I remember that H spent 6 weeks feeding me false hope and lying, and I've only known about his affair for just over 2 weeks."
While it feels like it is.. this is not a race to make yourself better. The very act of thinking you should be over him will make you dwell on it more. Take the simple idea of not thinking about him or your relationship for 10 mins each day. Then build on that. After a week of doing that you push for 20 mins a day. You get the idea? GAL will allow you to do just that. I am of the thought that your GAL activities should be outside your comfort zone. Something you always wanted to do but just never did kinda thing. You will know the activity that works for you as soon as you do it.. cause you won't think about anything else. Baby steps. Start slow.. expect you are going to fail. We all have failed at this.. just like you. Was not that long ago I was acting all "crazy" too. It is ok.. and it most likely will not impact the situation at all.
"Does anyone have tips/ideas for going dark? He'll be 3 blocks away and wants to see S every day, but I think I can still keep contact to a minimum."
The only thing I can say about this is that he expects you to minimize contact. It is the normal reaction. It also leaves him in control. I would not suggest a Going Dark plan unless you are 100% done. If you are 99% done don't go dark. If the affair is a deal breaker then so be it. Just make sure 100% that your actions follow your heart. If you had to hide and cry all day long so that you could face him with a smile on your face and a pleasant attitude for 10 mins a day.. I would suggest doing that. This moves the control towards you. And you may see some movement. Remember this is about you.. and who you want to be. Just make sure 100% who you want to be.. or what you want to look like.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
