Has your W ever used words to describe how her experience dealing with your label has been for her?
What I mean is, has she ever said, "It is very hard for me when you melt down." or as you suspect above, "I often feel I have to walk on egg shells around you."
I ask this because how she integrates her experience of you will go towards how she processes how to proceed...
The tragedy is, you can figure things out that will help a long way to your interaction with her, and I'm guessing when she found out about your label, she was OK with it...
I'd like to believe that when she said "for better or worse" that she meant it... not to judge her, but I'm just saying. Because I've thought about that kind of thing, recently...
Say if someone has terminal cancer, it's bad but slow cancer, and the prognosis is perhaps, 1.5 years... and at the .75 year mark, the spouse with cancer says, "That's OK. I release you of our marriage. Please understand that I want you to find someone new that you will be happy with, once I'm gone..."
It's up to the non-cancer spouse to accept or deny that offer by the dying spouse... and if they choose to move on... no one would judge them... and sometimes... it's that offer specifically that causes the living spouse to be firm and resolved in staying M through even the worst of it...
I don't know really what I'm getting at here, I'm just putting some thoughts out there.
In my sitch... maybe my W is just really done... and even though I've suggested she move on, and she is moving on regardless of my suggestion, she just doesn't want to speed the process up... her own reasons have prevented her to save money, wait for mediation, and what ever other reasons that she's really not in a rush to actually file D.
I don't have to like it if we D... but I do need to accept that possibility. I do not have to push her out the door, willingly nor unwillingly... but some times... people just have enough of something and they move on...
Again, just something you might ponder... might fit for you, might not...
