Please don't feel uncomfortable not knowing about my condition. In most ways, I look just like an ordinary person. The problem is, when I have emotions I am not prepared to process, I have a meltdown, and then I look like an oridinary person who is being an *anal sphincter*.
The only thing that is really hurtful to me in that arena is when people don't respect the fact that I do have some unique challenges. Everyone does. Only difference is, a lot of mine come with a great label that allows me to refer to them in "shorthand." Oh, and it also includes a body of research that I can read for my unique problems.
Doing little things to get confidence back. Yes, that could help. Just developing a general sense of confidence could help me to feel confident in carrying out the strategies to recover our marriage, even in the absence of any confirmation I am on the right track.
Thanks for the input. It was simple, literal, and involves concrete action. Perfect for me!
There is one thing about last night that has been nagging at me, that I didn't say before. I am worried that I have left W with the impression that she has to "walk on eggshells" around me. I am sure that I must have overreacted to what she said, and even though I stopped myself from REALLY melting down, I fear she will take this as evidence that she needs to avoid conflict between us, as I have been doing for years.
I have always been afraid of conflict. Terrified is more like it. Now, I am trying to learn to cope with it, and I don't want it to be too late.
Think about it...if you met a potential mate who was nothing but a bundle of needs, would YOU be attracted to them?
