your W has been constantly "testing" you to lead. She is looking for a man to lead the family, make decision and follow through with them.
I've been trying to lead this family. Whether it's doing things together with the kids or trying to plan things on our own. I find it hard to accomplish when there is only one willing participant. In the past my W has always accused me of being controlling and unsupportive of her decisions. When the issue of the car arose I was very supportive and told her I agreed that a new car would be nice and whenever she wanted to head to the dealership to let me know and we can head there together to pcik one out. I didn't want to control the situation like I would have done in the past because that is something she resented about me. I left the ball in her court, she never followed through and it was my fault anyway.
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I'm not sure of your financial situation, but the moment she signs on the dotted line, you are on the hook for half the vehicle. I believe the lease would be considered a martial debt, depending on the state you live in.
I realize this and there was no out of pocket money involved. The trade in covered everything and the payment is very low. We each have a newer car and if we do D then I think they will cancel each other out.
Before I even left work yesterday she called to find out what time I would be home. I told her I had a few things to finish up and before I could even tell her a time she snapped at me and said "what time" and then hung up on me. I didn't appreciate the attitude so I called her back to call her out on it. She went on to say that since we had our talk on Thursday that I've been spiteful and have had an attitude with her. I told her my attitude hasn't changed and I haven't been spiteful. I proceeded to walkthrough the times we were together on the weekend and the only thing she said was that I yelled at her about our son acting up at the movies on Sunday. The movie was crowded and she was sitting in the first row with our D and I was sitting in the second row with our S. He started running up by the screen and I peeked my head through the seat and asked her to "Please get him to sit down". She told me I said to her "he's an embarrassment, tell him to stop running and to sit down". I was shocked that she thinks that is what I said. I feel like I'm dealing with Dr Jeckle and Mrs Hyde.
She then started projecting some other negative crap at me and I told her that I won't let her disrespect me, call me names or distort the truth. I hung up the phone and finished my work.
When I got home it was like nothing ever happened. We went and got the car and the night was fine after that. I really don't know who this woman is anymore.
There is a difference between knowing the path & walking the path. – Morpheus
