And since I like to pat myself on the back, I'll quote something I just said. TBH, it is actually based on the quote from Bworl I posted here in Newcomers recently.
Everyone starts right away in this process claiming "I've changed!"
And in a since they have. But what it is they are scared shitless.
This fear causes them to say different things. Act differently. Think differently.
So, it is "change" in it's basic sense.
But this is not the change we are going for.
The goal is real change.
Life long, self improved, change.
This does unfortunately take some time.
That is why now is not the time to "show her you changed"
Although that's what everyone seems to want to do.
What your showing now is the "fear based change"
She WILL SEE the real change when it happens.
And you will not feel the need to show it to her.
Peace
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
