Can I save my marriage? (long; please be patient)

[MadeToSucceed]

Starsky,

I didn't see myself as arguing...I was just trying to understand where the blasting came from. I can handle style...I've been dog cussed by coaches for the majority of my life so that doesn't bother me.

Jack,

I guess that's maybe where I miss some of this...when you talk about frog to prince are we talking in her perception? Because I was NOT the bully...I had some very common flaws and I have focused intently on improving upon them but I didn't force all of this...sure I contributed along the way as anyone does but I didn't make her decide to do what she has done.

That being said, I understand what you are all saying and I truly respect it. I don't believe in too late so if I'm guilty of retaining hope then so be it. But I am becoming a better person and man each and every day. I'm finding myself in ways I hadn't been able to before. I just use this place as a sounding board of sorts and to communicate with people who have been there. That being said, I'm human. So if Starsky or any of you feel like I'm a "waste of time" in a sense because I haven't done everything to the T the way I'm "supposed" to do it, I fully understand and respect that. I say that with no tone or anger or disrespect...but as much as I'm searching for guidance I am my own man and will ultimately have to make decisions on my own. I sometimes just like to talk through them, before or after, to be able to see vantage points that I maybe hadn't considered.

Maybe I'm early in my marathon but it doesn't make the intensity any less just because I haven't been "in it" as long as some.