I like to see successful outcomes, Country. The longer he waits to at least START implementing some of these very basic first steps, the less chance he's going to have.
Let's face it, there are VERY few (any, currently?) success stories around here. That's not a knock on DB/DR, it's simply because most people's marriages are already deep in crisis -- and often involve infidelity -- by the time people land here to try to get help. When you argue with the advice that you get, and instead try to go with your "gut" -- when your gut instincts are usually what landed your marriage in the soup to begin with -- you're only making it harder on yourself.
So that's part of it. The other part is STYLE; I know mine can be brusque. It's not for everyone, and maybe others can help him more, by explaining it better or differently.
