Time for a new thread...thought I'd do the honours this time!
Something jumped out at me in your last post. I'm not sure this is GOOD news, but here goes.
You've mentioned that your H's excuse for not filling certain of your needs (QT, sex, etc) because "it's just not him"...
Then he goes and shows these things (well maybe not the sex!) to OW....
BUT rather than this being a side of himself he hid from you, couldn't it be part of the whole alien, MLC, "new forbidden fantasy land", world he was living in? That insane rush of "new love" ...
And I hate to say it, but some of that rubbed off on our M in the early days (as when your H first came home).
So really LL, I don't know what's better....he can be very romantic, sharing, QT...but is just withholding it from you...or that stuff does NOT come naturally to him and he's just being himself!
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