CL, you know I've been with you all along, and we're ALL pulling for you. But I agree with the others, above. It's time to stop forever changing your Subject lines on an internet message forum, and actually confront your wife on these difficult issues.
It's time to take some RISK, and lose the fear. I do completely understand why this is terrifying (I am a world-class conflict avoider/pleaser myself!). But I also understand that it will give you your best chance of success in gaining back a complete and fulfilling relationship with your wife.
