Beatrice, You sound very grounded and I think you are one wise lady to be patient and watch the drama as it unfolds. I think your xh does realize that he screwed up royally and now doesn't know how to make things right.
If you can be patient for a while, I'd let him figure out how to squeese through the crack in the wall. It's tough, but we do have to allow them to do the work in order to make it back to us. Hang in there. I think your xh's drama is going to be very intersting in the months to come.
Well a month on and I have had a good month. Occasional email exchanges with xh. While he isn't as funny as Brooklyn's x he does do some strange things.
Today my youngest son received an email copying me in about son's finances while he finishes up grad school. Now, we have not co-parented at all sadly, just too much venom, also my son is now almost 25 and the divorce settlement is done and dusted. I have my money and he has his, to do as we like with. No mention of adult children at the time, and there is no reason at all to include me in this exchange.
It is as if son was 18 [age he was when xh walked out] and we had been in a dialogue all this time about all of this stuff. My son just feels it is inappropriate in every way to start involving me in this, as do I. We discussed it, and I am ignoring the email, and my son is dealing with his father, gently and gratefully for the financial support, but pointing out that he is an adult, and is financially responsible.
