I am glad my old friend Lan posted this cause I have erased a similar post this morning. It was actually one similar to Tmite's but then read the response and backed off. But then I remembered all those harsh posts by my friends and decided I would give the favor back, because it was a favor for me...
CL, you cant "dance away" the issues. You cant keep avoiding issues hoping they will magically resolve whether that is sexual intimacy, unhealthy patterns, unmet needs, cruel behaviour...
I am sorry but ballroom dancing (or any kind of dancing) cant replace an intimate relationship. I am sure it can strengthen one cause of the quality time spent together but it cant be the foundation of it. Sometimes, to me, an outsider, it seems you have it the other way around.
It also seems to me, your wife (although behaving like a selfish princess all the time) is more ready to deal with her issues than you are. I dont want to sound harsh but as a woman, I would definitely want more than a motivated-excellent dance partner. And yes, I agree, patience is not unlimited. For months you are focusing on dance routines and competitions and that is great (I love ballroom dancing myself, all the latin dances, especially mambo)to the point that sometimes I have caught myself wondering after reading your posts "ok, enough with dancing, what's going on with your M!!!!?".
I dont want to upset you, just offering another view. Kalni
I would suggest that you read Passionate Marriage.
