It takes a lot to get me to post these but your instant dismissal of Tmites advice is one of those occasions where I feel I just need to say something.
Your followers have kindly interpreting your W behaviour into understandable words which You may or may not feel like you are able to act on, but to all of us it is clear what your W is hinting at. When she asks for a cuddle she is making herself vulnerable for you to take advantage. When she ridicules or embarrasses you she is looking for a “caveman” reaction from you, but when you follow your normal avoidance strategy she gets annoyed and banishes you to the spare room, (Beware I can see that one coming soon).
So no advice is being offered here I just wanted to say don’t be so dismissive of others advice because the actions will take you out of your comfort zone.
Take care and keep trying
Lanzo
Me:50 W: 49 T:20yrs M: 14 yrs D:11 2005 PA 2006: EA (2003 : 2007) 2007: April ILYBNILWY Aug PA, Sept Separate 2008: Feb Piecing 2009 Limbo 2011: Separated (same house) 2013: Divorcing