Tad about fb, i know what u r doing. I did it with myspace. You are stalling, as someone said, because its hard to let go. On fb who can see pictures of how she has changed and etc. BUT it is true Tad, this will only make your life worse than it already is. You will feel pain over and over again. Tad my ex h had to get a restraining order on me, YEP he did. I thought I would not make it when he cut off all contact with me, but you know what that was the BEST thing he could have ever done for me. I didnt see it at the time but I was slowly killing myself with interaction with hm. It was ripping me to threads. I could not start to heal. I had a hard time teh first two weeks or so but I adjusted. You thnk in the beginning of detaching that there is no way it can be good for you, but after you adjust you will see what everybody means. Its like standing at the edge of a cliff trying to decide whether to jump in the water or not. JUMP Tad! Just close your eyes and go. Everybody here has jumped and we are pushing you to. Tad the "you failed again excuses" are Bullcrap! She is using this to her advantage. My ex did this too. He would tell me, (if I did something he didnt like), that If I kept it up, he would Never come home. He would say often, "well you screwed up again" making me think he was considering us getting back together. He was tainting me and getting his way.
Tad this whole process is nothing but pain but we adjust thru each statge. The bomb The seperation The divorce (in some cases) The ow The livngin with ow The marrying ow The having a kid with ow.
These are the adjustments I had to encounter and plus losing my house and my only child to my ex. Which was the worst of it all.
