Pretty sure this is a MLC or Identity Crisis

[tested metal]

Here's some more information to what has been asked.

My W had a pretty controlling mother who to this day has had serious issues regarding body image and passes this poison on to the W almost everytime they talk. W seems pretty vague about possibly being sexually abused, like she doesn't remember it happening but has night terrors at times. Her parents paid for the gastric bypass in 2002. She promptly lost weight and started dating every guy in town. She then met up with a real gentelman who knocked her up and abandoned her on the day she had to get an abort. Her parents paid for that too.

She then decided to quit seeing those type of guys and guys altogether, before I came into her life. I am the complete opposite of those guys she was dating.

She is in constant competition with her youngest sister who is uber athletic and runs marathons. My guess is the need for the baby was to get positive attention from parents for a while before lil' sis could. Guess what. Lil' sis got married last year, to which W through a hissy during the reception and stayed in her room the whole night. Then 3 months later lil' sis was pregnant and stole the thunder for a while. Never mind the fact that lil' sis lives 2000 miles away from us and GPA and GMA and we only live 150 miles from her parents.
Her parents have always been good to me and I can see where Mom's stuff affects W. Dad is pretty nice and kinda keeps to himself.

As for concieving the baby, I had to get checked out to see if I was fertile, but other than that W just had to calm down and she got pregnant. She has been diagnosed with depression since 2000, and whenever she has demanded Mom's attention or has a basic pouting match, Mom asks her if she has been taking her meds., which really ticks her off.

When her parents find out about the separation they are gonna flip.

I hope that answers your questions. I just wanted other people's opinions on this as I am inside the storm. I also realize that I have things to work on myself and I am currently working on them so i don't want to sound like I am W bashing. I truely want to make this work, but realize that is out of my hands. I need to work on me.