Pretty sure this is a MLC or Identity Crisis

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Shell,

I'm going to call you shell, simply because It sounds better than Scared, and when I first saw it I saw Scared a Shell.
(Find humor where you can buddy)

Is it a MLC?

I used to say that no one is an expert here. Until...you showed up. You have the (I assume) degree to back this up, more than any of us do.

My wife had an MLC. I can say that.

Did Mach's or Grit's wife?
I have an opinion, but...
That is really up to them to determine.

There are a ton of resources at the top of this part of the board. Alot of reading.

If it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck and walks like a duck...

You know what I mean?

Ultimately it is up to you to determine.

MLC plays a lot differently than a standard Walk Away Spouse.
You playing a long game with patience and your sucking up alot of grief on purpose. I always saw it as outlasting their MLC.

And for the record? I HATE the term MLC, because it has been streotyped, red sports car and banging the secretary, or desperate housewives type of stuff.

The trigger for an MLC?

Well, the gastric bypass if pressed I would say is less likely a trigger, if anything it is a symptom. (Looking good)
Like an affair.

If you have not yet read Divorce Remedy, go read it. Very good info in there.

Others will drop by and say welcome and how sorry they are.

Welcome Shell.

As for sorry?

I am glad I went through this, many others are as well, so I'm not sorry, if you stick around, leanr and grow? You won't be either.