I think any amount of constructive communication will be positive. I can't speak for Talk. All I know is that she's still lives with me, that she's stopped trying to fix me and that she still loves me....but the love light shines far dimmer than it used to.
I don't expect Talk to jump for joy b/c we have one good talk. I know I've hurt her far too many times, and she's really conflicted about staying in the relationship. She's told me that she feels less, gullible, almost stupid when she gets her hopes up. Those words are hard to hear coming from my W b/c I know she thinks carefully before speaking. In my opinion, we are getting worse b/c I continue to relapse.
That being said, I'm going to focus on my issues and not try to read my W's mind; I'm not that intuitive.
I'm assuming that when you say "portions of a bigger problem" you mean the latest issue.
I've also been told to "man up" and own my mistakes.
