grebjack, I was talking about hiding the emotions from yourself, not your H.

My point is how to attempt to get passed them. From my experience it is recognition, processing and then accepting.

Also understand I am not necessarily talking about accepting a forgone conclusion in the future.

Only what is now.

Your examples of feeling peace are great. I especially like the story of seeing the flowers.

Remember that moment and know it is always there for you.

BITS

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.