oh... listening is a two way thing... listen... then feedback... then listen again, to be sure there's consistency in what you believe you heard...

IOW:

W: "The Anderson's went on vacation..."

H: "Wow, nice! It would be nice to go on vacation..."

possible responses:
W: "Yes, that would be nice..."
(time to plan vacation)

or...

W: "I think they wasted their money"
(H feeds back again to get more input)