To follow up on gr8's post...

It seems like it's a sitch of mind reading where we might think... if that's the case... why can't they just SAY that?

And that's true...

but from a lot of the resources I've seen, there's one that stands to the foreground out of all of this...

(and this could get into a discussion on the relevance or non-relevance of "Mars vs. Venus")...

Women need men's (their spouses) attention ALL the time...

So I absolutely agree with gr8 in that the better an H can... listen... the better the couple can communicate...