My original purpose for the email was to get my Lost discs back. Turns out SD has them. I have a few other things that I'd like to get from the house also. My apartment is small, so I can't fit a lot here, but I'm kind of tired of not having my things available when and where I want them. I'm tempted to just get a storage unit to put the rest of my stuff in. W's house would be quite empty then, but not exactly my problem.
Here's the email I composed: W, I have a few DVD related questions/requests.
First, I suspect I have a Netflix movie there. If so, I'd like to pick that up.
I have at least one DVD I left in the carousel player that I'd like to get. Could you get the DVD(s) out of there? You should only have to plug the player into the wall to open it.
I'm not sure if you knew this, but Netflix is unbundling their streaming and DVD services. What that means is that the two at a time DVDs + streaming is going up to $20 a month. I'd like to either put that on our joint card or go down to a one DVD plan for myself. If I do that, you can get a one DVD plan yourself. I wouldn't do anything with the streaming.
One non-DVD related request: I have some tennis shoes in the garage I'd like to get for my race next week. I don't want to ruin my good shoes.
Hope you got your prescription sorted out. I'll arrange a time to pick things up. Thanks.
Me
One of W's complaints about me before was that I did things without consulting her (semi-true). Netflix account is under my name and my personal cc account. W mentioned long ago we should have it on the joint account, just taking her up on her offer.
While I know *not* to bring it up, I have a morbid curiosity about what she thought we needed to "talk about us" about. That stove couldn't still be hot, could it?
Haven't sent anything yet. So, horrible mistake or pointless folly?
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
LP... my W's stove certainly appears still hot... You're about 3 months ahead of me, so... *shrug*...
The only thing I'd say about the email is it was a little wordy...
You probably could have said something like:
"A few things. I believe my Lost Season 3 is there, I might have a netflix movie there, and lastly a pair of runners. Hoping I could pick them up sometime soon if we can arrange a time. thx."
Yeah, I do tend to be wordy. I could also add the two dollar late fee she left on my account at the local movie store (ties in with the other DVDs), but I think I'll let it slide
W's B and SIL are back in town, so I thought I might suggest she take these things to MIL's house and I could pick them up there.
The one thing I thought about leaving out was the prescription part. The rest of the letter was business-y, that seemed personal.
I think I'm getting to where I just want closure and to move on with my life. I have been GALing and doing my own thing, but I miss having companionship and want to start seeking that out. It doesn't seem right to me to do that while still technically M, so in one way I'd be fine if W wants to (and goes through with) D.
Final thought - yesterday while at the art fair, I kept thinking about a song snippet from Smashing Pumpkins "Muzzle":
My life has been extraordinary blessed and cursed and won
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
So, while listening to SPs "Today" (today is the greatest day I've ever known) I get an email reply from W:
M, Yes you do have a DVD at the house. I was out of town this weekend and felt too crappy when I got home to do much about it.
The DVD is in the DVD carousel? I have disconnected it, you know how much I always liked that DVD player. You can have the whole thing if you would like?
I did hear that the Netflix rates were going up. When does it take effect? I think we need to talk about more than just Netflix stuff. We need to figure out a plan on how we want to handle us. Its difficult when we are not talking and a situation comes up like this weekend and I need something. Also its gotten to the point where not talking and avoiding each other is only causing more rather than less bitter feelings.
Just let me know when you want to come grab the shoes. The yellow squash and beans are also ready to be picked if you would like either.
Oh no, the dreaded R talk! That's more dread than the Dread Pirate Roberts (I like my pop culture, thank you:)
I'll answer her later once I've figured out when I want to talk. And pick beans and squash. My kids are gone this week so I have absolutely nothing scheduled, but she doesn't need to know that.
W knows my stance on OM, so I really don't know what she means by 'handle us'. Guess I'll find out. I'm ready to just let the chips fall where they may.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
W: Sorry I have a quick question. Do you know how much more expensive it is to go to the urgent care on (street) rather then the Dr. I am feeling pretty awful and am not sure I can wait until tomorrow to get in to see a dr, again.
Me: Should just be the $15 co-pay. I know both (urgent care) in (place) and (other urgent care) take our insurance. Sorry you aren't feeling well
Yes, I still care about her...
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
Man LP... that's something my W could have written...
I find it interesting how we generally strive to be short and clear and if we get responses, they're interspersed with answers (sometimes) to the questions, and more become a dialogue of our spouses ... ummm... thoughts...
Ah well, at least you can get your DVDs and shoes and probably get a DVD player to boot...
My take is... either go there and hope for the best... or...
I don't know... fire off a simple message to her asking if she could elaborate on the "how we want to handle us" thing...
My W has repeatedly told me she's working on a "parenting plan"... I have yet to see one from her... what's... interesting is... it appears she only says that when she's frustrated at me for something...
bah... I'd guess that she's pissed at you for something so she wants to tell you how you are supposed to be when she makes all the choices around whatever it is that she is pissed about...
