WAW in Los Angeles

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Update:

My WAW came over about 2 weeks ago to get mail and to meet some contractors that are repairing a fence between our home and the neighbors.

The meeting was brief, no more than 40 minutes. The interesting piece of mail was a letter from her father. My WAW has been estranged from her family for 12 years, due to her father. The letter was to reach out to reconnect. Her response to the letter was surprise. She said, "I'll deal with one thing at a time". I assume she meant the D/sitch as the one thing first.

What also came up was that she was going to NYC for vacation. Her departing flight was early (6:30 am), so I offered to take her to the airport. She agreed. When I arrived, we had a nice conversation on the ride, nothing heavy. I offered to pick her up from the airport, but she declined. Since then, no contact until this AM.

The contractors had questions about the fence. I didn't want to not include her in the process, so I text her. She ended up calling and was annoyed. "I'm never going to live in the house again, so make the decision that you want". Shortly thereafter, she instant messaged me and apologize for rushing me off the phone, as she is busy at the office after being gone on vacation for a week. She said, "Are you happy with your decisions regarding the fence?" Why repeat those words?

I haven't responded. I want to let her know that I did not mean to be insensitive to her time, but wanted her feedback. Not sure how to respond without sounding weak.

I'm in the low end of the ebb and flow. I'm GAL, but this whole discourse brings the weight of the situation to bear. So frustrated and angry.