Haven't heard from her today and I gotta be honest that I am getting an itch to shoot her a message. Just not sure if I should or not.
Nooooooo!!!!!
This is what we call "going all melty-man" on her, and it's a natural reaction when you finally get some spark in return from them. But the #1 MISTAKE PEOPLE MAKE IN DBing, is letting the walkaway/wayward spouse back in too quickly . . . too easily.
GO SLOW, it's good for BOTH of you. SHE has issues she needs to work on, that caused her to make the awful decision to try to leave her family in the first place, and YOU have things that YOU need to work on, that helped to create the marital dysfunction to begin with, right?
STOP PURSUING, and stop doing the "melty-man" thing would be my best advice. Be kind, but GO SLOW.
