Much appreciation to those who responded to my original post "Frustrated with W not admitting OM" for your insight, encouragement, and support. I plan to utilize your suggestions, as I navigate through this. I've tweaked the title, as I was hoping the original post would have yielded a few more responses. Perhaps that comes with experience of knowing what to post and when.
Anyway, one repeated suggestion was to GAL. Here’s another dilemma. My family & friend base is not local, but in another part of the country. I have no local support system, truthfully none. (GAL is a WIP and not as easy as I had hoped. See next paragraph). In my original post, I indicated our lease apartment lease expires at the end of the year, at which time my wife had earlier suggested we “consider” parting ways (hinting at D). At some point in October/November, we will be presented with the option of renewing our lease… at which time we will have no other choice but to discuss our future. Should we wait until then to discuss, or should it be discussed earlier? As some have pointed out, she does seem to want to have it both ways, but if she sticks to her original plan and desires not to renew a lease together, do I stay local and attempt to establish long term roots, or do I move back to my support system. Basically, staying local may not soothe my emotional pain, but moving away could make a reconciliation less likely. Should I stay or should I go? Thoughts?
Assuming I do stay local after the end of the year, I have found that making friends as an adult is much more challenging than as a child. So, while I may need to GAL now, it doesn’t seem as simple as I had thought. A lot of social activities tend to cost money, and we’re pretty much paycheck to paycheck. Also, most are singles oriented or couples oriented. I’m not exactly a single looking for love, and I wouldn’t exactly fit in the couples oriented either. Any suggestions?
