W: I just wanted to let you know that I really tried to work on our M. But we always ended up in the same place.
BM, how do feel about receiving this text?
What's to gain by replying?
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One of the things I have been working on in myself are my communication skills. And if she did something that bothered me I didn't tell her and I let them fester. This is what she means by ending up in the same place.
Did you get the book I suggested? After reading it there will be no more issues like the one above.
So she says something not to your like and you let in bulid inside? Once you finish reading you will make decisions from your code. Decisions and responses will come easier for you.
I can relate with you, my stbx thinks she did everything to save the M too. Their reality is theirs. We see things differently. Both views are correct. It's when they realize things aren;t what they appear is when they see things in a new light.
Let your W feel the consequences of her reality.
If you need to respond to the text, validate.
"I know you did" and that's it.
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