We had a birthday party and sleep over for our son on Friday night.
We went to separate social events Saturday night (she found a baby sitter) and both of us got back late. We took a day trip (she invited me along) on Sunday to drop our son off at a weeklong camp. We took a short hike before dropping him off. She was not eager to engage in conversation during the drive and felt the need to put me down a couple times during our brief communications on the way home. I'm learning to not respond to these barbs but they are still hard to deal with. She has a habit of what I call chattering in which she will talk as she's doing things (like chores) or looking at objects during a drive. She chattered a few times during the drive. I was out in the back yard sitting on our bench just prior to dinner on Sunday (she had gone on a walk). She returned from her walk and asked if she could join me on the bench. We talked for about 15 minutes just prior to dinner. A bill from her lawyer showed up in the mail on Friday and she told me this was a bill for the 10 minutes that she talked to her lawyer. She asked me to give her my estimate of what child support would be. She said that she had not filed for divorce as of yet but was considering it. We made arrangements for how we would split driving responsibilities for getting our daughter to various events during the week.
I put together another quality dinner on Sunday and she seemed very appreciative of my efforts (I'm enjoying the cooking and am learning some things with help from cookbooks). She complimented the dinner and some other clean up that I had done during dinner. We played some games with our daughter Sunday night and this seemed to be fun for everyone.
It's hard to tell if I'm making progress given her lack of communication in the car. She also was not very forthcoming about the event she attended Saturday night. We'll have some time to talk this week given that our Son is at camp and our daughter is in bed fairly early in the evening. Any advice for how to engage her in conversation this week?
Me: 45 W: 45 S: 12 D: 9 M: 16 T:22
Bomb: 4/20/2011 Says she moves out in July with Kids Discovered Affair: 6/10/2011 She files for divorce: 8/18/2011
