I just feel so foolish that I sit here waiting for something to change and happen with her and it never will. My life feels like it is on hold whilst she is off pretending I don't exist and that she wasn't with me for 8 years.
Hey CAM, your situation is a LOT like mine. Don't throw in the towel. Don't sit around waiting for something to change with her either. The change has to come from you, because it will make you a better person, and one who will be better able to get through the divorce if it comes to that, BUT also because the changes you make will make you more attractive to her, no matter what she's saying or doing right now, and that is your only chance at creating a change of heart in her. However, she has to see for herself that you understand why she's reached the point she has, and she has to see real change in you over a long period before that change of heart can start to happen. No matter how dire your situation seems, there is still hope, but only if you focus 100% on YOU, and your role in bringing your wife to her decision, and what you can do about changing YOUR behavior. Simply put, right now the only chance you have at changing your wife's mind is by changing your behavior.
H: 41 W: 35 M: 9 years T: 10 years S: 9 D: 7 ILYBINILWY & "I want a divorce": 6/22/2011 Piecing: 10/2011 Still going strong as of 4/2013
