I knew I wouldn't get to sleep easily after the long conversation, but accepted that before going to bed.......
So
1) The situation wasn't made any worse or better by our R talks 2) A lot came out from both of us open and honestly, all in a calm manner 3) After thinking a lot last night, W hasn't actually learnt from this, or changed, W has just focused on the negatives (just like most WAW's), so 4) I hope W took on board my constructive calm comments and actually spends some time thinking about them 5) W has noticed and commented on my changes, and my new attitude and perspective discussed at the beginning of the S came through again yesterday 6) W's body language indicated she was at least comfortable around me 7) Seeds have been planted on how things could be (don't know if they will get watered though!!!!) 8) I am not going to bring US up again
Things I still have no idea of and no longer intend to look into:
1) I asked W why she was so worried last week when I said I wanted to talk, W reply was she didn't know!!!!! 2) Why did W tell D14 that she didn't know where they would be for Christmas and it would depend if we aren't together!!!!
Me - 37 W - 38 D - 14 S - 12 Together - 16 Married - 12 Bomb - April 13, 2011 W moved out - May 13, 2011
The man I became is changing back to the man I was........... and more
