Sad Girl, your story is mine exactly, but now my beloved is gone physically from our home. Though really, he left me years ago - I just didn't realize it.

There was one night, after he'd already ended our relationship but was still sleeping our bed (and had taken up with OW, but I did not yet know about her), that my Ex-P hugged me and hugged me in his sleep. I didn't move, I didn't breath, for hours. I knew it would be the last time, though I prayed it wouldn't.

In the morning, he remembered and apologized. He claimed he must have been 'cold'. A few days later he told me about the OW. I asked if he was thinking of her that night when he had been affectionate and he said "No, I swear on my life."

I'll never know.


Me: 35
Him: 43
Together: 19 1/2 years
1st Bomb (IDLYAM): March 2011
2nd Bomb (OW): April 2011
He abandons home/bills/everything: May 2011
He's bought a new house for OW: September 2011