I'm off to see The Wizard

[aeolianchaos]

Do I have a right to ask him to make up his mind?
If he doesn't want me, or doesn't want our marriage, then why doesn't he just file already? Why prolong this any longer?

You have the right to ask him to make up his mind.

He has the right to make a choice you don't want, make a choice you do want, or to remain in his 'ambivalent' state.

How you respond to any of these is entirely up to you.

It's harsh but it is the truth. Now - of course you also have the choice of whether or not you want to ask that question at this point. Do you believe there is a benefit in not asking it?

I understand wanting to know - but you'll only really know what he is willing to tell you in the first place.

I guess what I would wonder is: are you prepared for if the decision he makes isn't the one you want? How would it change things for you?