Thank you so much for taking the time to help me. You really have helped me to look at this a different way. You are right that if I saw this as an illness I would be better to him and I would treat him ALOT differently. I am definitely going to try to look at this in a different perspective and see if that helps our R. He swears that he has NO contact with her, but I just don't believe him to be honest and I think that is causing alot of the problems that we have because it causes tension...anytime he's late getting home from work, anytime his phone beeps, etc.
He absolutely HATES to talk about our R, but I will try the suggestion of 20 min once or twice a week. I think that would help me alot!!
I really can't thank you enough for your wonderful insight and I will refer back to your post to me quite often to help me when I'm losing focus. I almost feel like a WAW myself because I'm just so tired of it all. However, your post has given me a new perspective and I will attempt to put it to use, because you are right...I do want everything to be perfect RIGHT NOW!!!
Me: 31 H: 30 Kids: D9 Together almost 12 years Married almost 5 years EA began: 8/10 Separated: 3/11
