D14 asked w to come to bbq which we did not have planned LOL
D14 asked me to ask w about us, as she told me she wanted us back together. Arrrh
W accepted D14s invite, and was here a couple of hours
Very lengthy R talks, but basically got loads of info out for both of us, and I think the thing what shouts loudest to me is that w didn't know my ll, which was as I thought, shows that we just lost touch with each others needs, very sad.
The talk was good though as we finally got everything out. We both said we can see the changes in each other etc, and both agreed we were both unhappy.
Also said things could be different in a new relationship. W said she could see that but was not what e wanted.
W finished up talking about the house etc, which I replied that I would not facilitate things, w had to do that, but its not what I want, bit would not stand in the way.
Needed to get my head clear in one way or another after the info I had received in the last week, esp from D14
Actually don't feel too bad, sad yes, upset/gutted no, quite strange really.
If that is what W wants, so be it, but I will not help her, w needs to facilitate things.
Just sad
As others say, with a leep of faith it could be so different
But
It is what it is, and will be what it will be
Whatever happens next, I can handle it. I have learnt so much about Mr due to this that I wouldn't have learnt otherwise, and am still learning and jot the new finished article just yet..........
Me - 37 W - 38 D - 14 S - 12 Together - 16 Married - 12 Bomb - April 13, 2011 W moved out - May 13, 2011
The man I became is changing back to the man I was........... and more
