I read this and think....He is just not that into You....
I completely disagree.
sunshine, also read "How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking about it" to get a better understanding of some of the communication issues you are experiencing. I still also highly recommend Mars/Venus (although outdated it does a great job on some of the stereotypical gender differences). The 5 love languages was also life changing for me, and it's not gender based at all. I'm pretty sure that all of these resources are MWD endorced or talked about, they are really good tools.
I'm a screaming extrovert. I NEED people. Being alone drains me but I am learning to self-sooth by pampering myself and meditation. It's a constant struggle for me.
IMO, your BF is trying to establish boundaries ... the one week vist for example. He didn't say "no, don't come" but he did tell you what he was comfortable with. This is often what was missing in our previous relationships. We didn't have boundaries, instead we had unrealistic expectations.
I say do as much reading as you can on the topic to try to gain understanding. All of the things you list while you are wondering if they are extreme sound very reasonable to me for an extreme introvert. They are the exact opposite of what an extreme extrovert would need.
Good luck! PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
