Even the most succinct, clear, short message can be... misinterpreted... All you can do is try your best...
But yes, be clear, not vague, and be as short as possible to get the message out when communicating. It just comes with practice.
I think I understand what you want to talk to your W about...
I am just wondering... why...? I mean really WHY? Often, when "testing the waters", there's something more that is hoped...
maybe to tell the spouse how much we're changing, or to ask the spouse subtle questions to see if R is possible yet, or maybe to try to get the spouse to see our side and let them know how they can fix themselves...
All kinds of reasons...
So unless your conversation is really just "business"... what are you hoping for... because your secondary agenda may not work out so well nor go as you hope... generally doesn't...
