If through all of this I can become a better person and father then so be it.
It might sound counter-intuitive, but this ^^^ should be your goal, not saving the M. By making this your goal, you might save the M, but if you concentrate on the M first/better person second you have a much higher chance of missing both of your goals.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011