The replies you get from the DB Board is given with good intentions of trying to help. If anyone can understand the pain you are experiencing, it's another LBH. If anyone can help you avoid some mistakes, it's one who has been been there.
You've just lost one of the very best on the DB Board, b/c of your own anger. You have to be strong enough to take the advise given, and we all have different personalities and different ways of expressing. What Bill said to you has been said to hundreds of other newcomers. I've read enough of his posts to know that no personal insult toward you or your wife was intended.
What type of advice are you seeking?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
