She told you she had no one else to call. She chose you because she felt safe with you. I understand why you turned her away from an emotional perspective but if you'd stayed on the line and listened and validated...... Females need to talk things through and to be heard. They will know who they feel safe to share with and who really listens to them and comforts them according to their needs.
Stayed and listened and validated...another man? I'm sorry...I just don't see how that in any way aids in R or M talks. I would basically be helping her get through and find ways to cope with and work things out with OM. I can't do that. I've tried to talk to her about him in the past. I told her exact things I knew about him and what he was doing with others while he was claiming to love her. That all backfired and just led her to asking him questions to which of course he lied his way out of. Others that know him personally tried to warn her. And now when she finds something out for herself she doesn't call me apologizing and seeking R but rather to have someone be there for her to support her and her EA and PA? That person CAN NOT and WILL NOT be me.
mid 20s Tgther 7 yrs W EA 04/12/11 PA 04/23/11 W filed 05/11/11 I moved out 08/05/11 Mediation mid Oct 11 D final Dec 11 Now what? ...2012
