You guys were right. I was getting to hopeful over nothing. She was crying because she probably feels stupid in one sense but on the other hand, she's really attached to OM. I was out with a friend when this all happened and he tried to talk to me about it on the way home but I just cried. I cried and cried and cried while I drove to the point where I had a headache. I just don't understand. How you can you treat someone this way? I feel so stupid. I can't believe I let this happen to me again. Just when I was started to build up some confidence. Gut punched again. I feel like such a fool.
mgm,
You may feel like a fool, but you handled the situation extremely well. I think you said EXACTLY the right things to her, and that they needed to be said. You told her that you are both a husband and a friend, but for her to discuss OM with you is what I would call a "boundary of personal integrity" that you cannot live with. To go there, you then get into "gay boyfriend" mode in her mind, and while she'll appreciate the friendship, she will LOSE ATTRACTION toward you in my opinion.
It's not your job to rescue her from her bad decisions. Well done.
