I'll leave this as my last post to you because I don't want to be irritating someone who is trying to save his marriage.
If you interpreted my comments to be suggesting that YOUR wife was a b*tch, I apologize. My comment was meant to explain that many on here approach their crisis by smothering their spouse, insisting on choices and decisions, and that what they get instead is hostility. Much of their posting then winds up being them sharing all the wrong approaches they used, and sharing how terrible they are being treated by their spouse.
The intent was to encourage AWAY from that.
You're right, I don't know you from Adam. None of us do. And yet you have posted here on an anonymous forum asking for advice. What I shared with you is my advice.
It's ok if that doesn't work for you. There is no need to become hostile about it, because it was not shared in a spirit of hostility.
When I said you wouldn't like my adivce, I was anticipating that, as a newcomer here, you would be inclined to NOT like any advice that was not centered on you directly approaching your wife and FIXING this problem.
That's it.
Best wishes on your situation. Having lived through it myself, I can empathisize with you and share that this is something you would wish on no one.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
