I was just gut punched again. My W started messaging frantically saying she needed to talk at about 1:30am my time. She kept saying she needed me and wanted to know if she could call me.
She called and for 10 minutes she proceeded to cry to me about OM. Telling me how he'd promised to fly to Monaco and now was able to because the flight was too expensive and how she couldn't be let down anymore. That she told him how it made her feel...like he'd let her down. She said if that made him be done then so be it but she couldn't not tell him how she felt. She ranted for minutes as if she was talking about her husband...ME...but it was all about him. She said she had no one else she could talk to or call. She finally stopped long enough to say "I'm sorry I just didn't have anyone else to call."
At that point, I tried to remain as calm as possible but I was crushed. Next thing I knew I said "So you decided to call me? Do you realize you haven't called me once since you've been gone and yet when you do, you want to talk to me about your boyfriend?" She's sobbing and saying she's sorry. I hung up.
She then messages saying "I'm sorry. I won't contact you anymore."
I sent this back to her: I am your friend. I love you. I'm also your husband. I tried to warn you about him months ago. You don't have to lie in any bed but you choose to. I love you but I can't help you with this. Do you realize the position you just put me in? How would you feel if I called you about a woman because we're having problems? I'm "ok" W. I'm going to be "ok." Somehow. Some way. I want to be "ok" with you but I can't help you with this. You have to understand that.
You guys were right. I was getting to hopeful over nothing. She was crying because she probably feels stupid in one sense but on the other hand, she's really attached to OM. I was out with a friend when this all happened and he tried to talk to me about it on the way home but I just cried. I cried and cried and cried while I drove to the point where I had a headache. I just don't understand. How you can you treat someone this way? I feel so stupid. I can't believe I let this happen to me again. Just when I was started to build up some confidence. Gut punched again. I feel like such a fool.
