Yes he said to be "longsuffering, humble, and stop making her pay for my pain." He said to take the resentment toward her way down. All things that I have done. The session was an hour but went by so quick and I am going to do another one this week.
Please understand I am under no illusion that my wife is going to come running back to me because "I have changed." Yes my eyes are open and the scales have fallen off, but good gosh I am not an idiot who thinks that just because I have spoken to someone on the phone and read one book that my wife is going to see what a "great guy" that I am now. In fact I am new to this and don't know much. I just want to be a better person and have some peace. If the end result is that my spouse sees that she can come back then that would be great, but heaven knows I am sure not banking on it at this point nor do I think I have any answers and know everything. I am just a guy who feels terrible and misses his family terribly.
If through all of this I can become a better person and father then so be it.
"Someday we may look back on this and decide that Saving Private Ryan was the one decent thing we were able to pull out of this whole godawful mess."
