rock, rock, rock, pebble, rock, stick... SQUIRREL!
Originally Posted By: aeolianchaos
Also - these friends - do they symbolize an enabling force for you? People that would be more likely to tell W what they think she wants to hear, than what she probably needs to hear?
To speak on and answer this first:
Absolutely. I believe it is both a spoken and an unspoken validation of my W's value or rather stated... her attractiveness.
I would not presume to analyze my W (or rather to assert my analysis), but in my experience of her, she does have huge self esteem issues.
So while I believe I showed her and told her how much I loved her and saw her beauty... It's very possible it was either not enough, or it was not in a way that she could hear me...
On the rest of your post, well stated.
And to be fair... while the LBS may forever believe that the WAS (by virtue of not becoming enlightened in a way that matched our vision of their enlightenment) never had that moment of clarity and learning...
It is very possible that, in their very own way, they will become enlightened in their journey in a way that is exactly necessary for the next portion of their journey through life...
Even if that means moving forward on a path that is different than that of the LBS...
