Hey DS, never a good situation to be in. As stated, great you got a DB coach...
While we are generally here to save our Ms, we start with saving ourselves... doing everything we can do to be even better than we already are so that we become spouse that our partners would be fools to leave...
Now, as far as the "Divorce the old marriage and start a new one"... That's the point, yes...
Here's the thing about that... we find that some WAS actually have to go through the process in order to actually start a new relationship with the LBS and then get re-married... it happens quite frequently... not so much here, I've seen... but it really does...
There was one point, before I found these boards that I mentioned to my W in agreement to her statement of "our M is dead, but I'm not sure what I want..." or something like that, something about starting life from scratch...
Anyhow, I responded in a light bulb moment and said, "Yes, our old M is dead and we can start from scratch..."
Maaannn... did she get mad at ME for that suggestion...
So, that IS the point sometimes. Depending on where we are...
But at this time, I'd say listen to the words of your DB coach, and if there were any GAL activities or 180s that might have been suggested, or that you can try... now's the time...
