I'm proud of you for sticking up for yourself... Also I think we just assume sometimes that our H's are heartless, but more and more I am seeing (both with my H, and spouses on this board) that when they are hit with a bit of reality, they do start to feel emotion (pain, guilt even love). I don't think the majority of us purposely try to make our spouse feel bad, but if reality makes them feel bad, then so be it. They made their beds.. and sometimes a good dose of reality goes a long way... hugs.
