Can My Marriage Be Saved, Pt 2

[a girl]

Of course, pushing for him to have guilt over saying it could have resulted in a flair up... thankfully, it didn't...

Maybe here's the thing... could that have been a 180 for you? Sticking up for yourself when he's being disrespectful?

I'm not pushing him to feel guilty - but if being honest leads to guilt, I suppose that's what happens.

And yes, in the past, I would have ignored what he said and then several hours (or perhaps days) later told him it hurt my feelings and was mean. Speaking up immediately is a new thing for me.