I am absolutely appalled by what this pastor told your wife.
That was horrible, horrible advice.

I am sure some of the vets on this board will pop in and give yoy some helpful advice. I wish I had something to say to make you feel better, just know that there are a lot of people who will support you through this.

"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack."
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