Had a possible "light bulb" moment... well, the light bulb was there, but not sure if it's on or off, yet...
I'm taking a moment to try to look for some psychological reason for my W's mindset right now...
We all know this... we can't believe they don't want to be with us, so there must be some thing messing up their heads... of course, not saying there isn't, but we just want to believe this is probably the case...
Anyhow... and I almost feel bad about this, and of course, that is the beauty of it... I SHOULD feel bad about having this thought... if the suspicion is "wrong"...
I have NEVER seen any physical evidence or documentation that proved that my W's prior BF (D13's dad) EVER physically abused her... now, there's ALL SORTS of abuse...
But as I go back in my memories... I've got nothing... I do not KNOW that he hit her... I do not KNOW that he threatened to take D13... I do not KNOW that he yelled a lot and threw things and was so scary... I BELIEVE that to be so... because I BELIEVE(d) my W when she said those things...
There is only one person that I know who was close enough to W at the time, that might actually have seen evidence... This friend of mine is no longer friends with my W... long story but we'll just say that this friend was summarily judged by my W for exactly the same things that my W is now doing, herself...
The question is... what would I do with that information?
The answer is... I will simply have an answer to my question.
If the answer is "no, I saw no evidence", it does not mean it isn't true... but the BF did NOT challenge the court... but it was alongside evidence of drug use, so there was some wrong doing... W used the complete case to remove BF from her life to such an extent, that he knew that any false move and she would remove D13 from his life, completely... he finally... gave up... every once in a while, he has asked for visits or phone conversations...
If the answer is "Yes", then that's what the answer is, and nothing more...
I'm just wondering... because I was close enough to my W at the time, include the last "incidence" that I would think I would have seen something... that I would remember some type of evidence... unless I've blocked that, for some reason...
